1 U wanna know?

And THIS is how vacay starts....with awesome orange nails and a movie marathon.

Trip to the Dominican Republic's this monday. And I know some of you can't wait to hear the stories.
About the trip...I have a tutti-fruti flavoured shake of feelings going on inside. Bitter-sour-salt-sweet....

On another note I've been thinking...can we apply the rule of "whatever happens in the Dominican Republic stays in the Dominican Republic"?

LoL
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4 Videoclips, Princesses, Comments and Vacays

So, the weekend's been quite interesting. It has drained even my last drop of strength. But nevertheless I was happy and satisfied...and to some moment even ecstatic!

I had to help my brother with a video-clip. HELL OF A BUTT-WRECKING JOB!
But I have to say...I'm excited to see the results! (Will post the link here so you guys can see).

In the middle of the recording it was time to RUN.
My sister-in-law was having contractions and was rushed to the hospital. On friday the 15th... 11:54 to be exact our lifes were blessed with the arrival of the beautiful beautiful baby-girl Ly-Jeanha. (See pic)

Of course through this all Ly-Jeanha's eldest sister (7) and brother (2) stayed. with me and slept on my bed that nite. One thing I can tell you, it was nothing short of a professional wrestling match!

So, as you can imagine...it was an exhausting and sleep deprived joy filled interesting w-end!

And this morning I finally got the chance to change the blog's layout (yes AGAIN) and fix the commenting dilemma... I did my best, and I am satisfied!

Well,...enjoy commenting again! And I hope you all have a terrific week! Mine's gonna be quite 'rushy-mushy'...still two working days, and then VACAY again (Sy does a stupid dance)

Will (try to) keep you posted xD
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Couple of days ago I’ve changed this blogs’ layout.

Yeayyyyy for a new dynamic layout! (And Sy does a silly dance)

Well,  I found the previous one to be basically too serious and stiff.

 I know, I know... Didn’t I choose to put it up myself? Yup, I did. But at that moment there was just no better option...

I personally love my new layout. It is artsy, colorful, bright, lively and not gender related. It’s not that I have anything against gender related stuff, but from the start I knew I didn’t want a layout all too girly, but neither did it had to be boyish or dull. So the actual one...well, it is not PERFECT...but it makes me content.
The only problem now is...since I’ve changed the layout, you are unable to comment L Thanks to DannyB for calling this prob to my attention...

So so soooo  sad... (SNIF)

But I’m trying to work this inconvenience out so you’d be able to post comments as soon as possible. In the mean time bear with me...I’m not a professional you know; but I’m trying my best here!

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0 YOU in # years...

I finished reading a book today which I promised I'd read,only because I was told it was an awesome read...
Interesting enough, it wasn't the best book I've read, but it was worth wasting my time on.

This weekend I devoured the pages quite fast, lol. Approximately 150 pages per night...
And since last night I had this thought-provoking question chasing me. I don't really know if it's because of the story-line in the book. But nevertheless I said BLOG!

The question;
"What's worth striving for? The ideal life or the realistic life?"

The ideal life doesn't have precisely the same meaning for two people alike... Your mom has other ideals than you and you, on your turn, long for other stuff than your (perhaps) identical twin brother/ sister.
The ideal is shaped by the way we want our lives to become and (to my opinion) this, on its turn, is hugely influenced by the media. Movies give us portraits of prince charmings on white horses and barbie impersonifications. Perhaps you see an advertisement which gives it's own definition to success and feeds this to us on it's most costly platinum plate. Radio programs, magazines, books, billboards...dedicated to convince us that our life could use that which they have to offer in order for it to be better. Ideally, my life needs more/less of THAT so I can be happy.
And face it, even in the "imperfect" figures in the media can we sometimes recognize ourselves and ideally crave to at the very least, be different.
Longing to be different isn't necessarily wrong. But my problem is, not every ideal is realistic! And there can, sometimes, be such a big gap between what we ideally want and what we can/ should realistically achieve.

Can someone perhaps strive so hard for the ideal that they defy what reality is offering them?
Then again, what's exactly realistic?

The most satisfactory definition I have found so far stated that a realistic view is when you tend or express things as they really are. (And contrary to the ideal, not as you WANT them to be). The realistic view presents objects, actions and social conditions as they really are.

Hmmmm,...

Then, I think, you can answer the question in the subject using both the views.
"Ideally, I see my life xxxx in # years. But realistically I think xxxx.
And I think, that depending on what your ideal really is, some people do achieve their ideal lives (at least in part). And some people realize on the long run, by harsh experience sometimes, that what they've always considered as ideal wasn't ideal at all. And that reality is the most ideal thing that could have happened to them...

Personally I think I'm leaning lately on the more realistic side of a living. It's just that ideals can sometimes be so.... (Sigh)
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1 So, what's your status?

When I and my friends saw the movie named after the topic of this post, my friends actually thought that the main character and I had some things in common... behaviorally speaking. And I strongly disagreed. Well I still do...kind of.
But some other people agreed there were some resemblances and to this day I have it posted on my office door...written by a colleague...”No Strings Attached. Starring Sy.”

Sy doesn’t star in any No Strings Attached!!!! ...(Or does she?)

Interestingly enough, I read some days ago in an article about a survey conducted in the USA in which it resulted that 82% of the women they interviewed have (once) had “no strings” sex. Be it with an FWB (Friend with Benefits), a “casual” date or in a simple one night stand. They interviewed 2.000 women between the ages of 18 to 63 and the number one reason for them to do this was simply for...the FUN! Widely 51% of the interviewed said that the goal of engaging into a “no strings” agreement was mainly to have fun. No Pressure, no emotional hurdles and no commitment hassles involved.

But now surprisingly enough when you search the web most sites will warn you against the pitfalls of such an agreement and there are even sites that totally condemn the act. Which is understandable!
 It touches a topic that for a long time has been (and for some still is) what we call taboo...SEX. Besides this all, people see the concept of sex differently depending on their upbringing, their religious teachings, the norms and etiquettes they’ve set upon relationships and a series of other factors.

But of course such an agreement as the no strings isn’t risk free! But then again, WHAT is risk free?

It’s simply a commitment-free satisfaction of the physical needs, as I define it. Some condemn it, some approve of it...I’d say, you be your own judge and choose what you want to do. In the end, who’ll be the one enjoying or suffering the main consequences?

But keep in mind that a no strings agreement is rated NE; which means Not for Everyone. The biggest warning sign that is boldly written on most sites with NSA information has to do with the risk of getting attached and thus...the hurt that comes accompanied with the attachment. If one, or both of the partners is insecure, extremely jealous or easily attached this will represent a danger sign for maintaining their no strings agreement stress-free.
An NSA requires you to detach your heart from sex, and yea...for a lot of people this is a difficult task. Especially for women, due to their oxytoxin level.  You have to keep in mind that it’s just purely sex, and not “making love”. So some will advice that you restrain yourselves form post coital cuddling, minimize the encounters and absolutely no sleepovers.
 It is important, if you decide to engage into this type of an agreement to be very honest with yourself. Do you really want an agreement with no strings or something more binding? How able are you to keep emotions detached from intercourse? Ask yourself some serious questions...and if you don’t know the answer the best way to find out is by experienceJ.  

Hey, what else can I say?  A No-Strings is an amusing, pleasing and dauntless act; as long as you set straight rules and the intention of the encounters is clear to both partners. And as long as you know your own limits and u keep yourself to them... Always keep in mind that it’s just about the physical satisfaction...and if you’re lucky you’ll get some good commitment-free birds and bees action.  As long as you can lock up the emotional and don’t try to rationalize all too much, you’ll have fun  exploring a world of non committed satisfaction and physical fulfillment.
Believe me; I know what I’m talking about here... (wink-wink).

So, what's your status? :P.... Mine? Uh....guess twice!